Girl,

Just look at your eyes…you were born with a fire inside you,
and this world is determined to stamp it out.

You will see it when you stand up for yourself and you are told how arrogant you are amongst your sex because ‘it isn’t ladylike to raise your voice.’

(Speak louder when they say things like that to you.
Let them see how quick a single flame can take hold of an entire forest)

You will know it if a man tries to use his strength against you..

(What did he think would happen if he manhandled flames?
His burnt fingers are his own fault, not yours.)

Im sure you felt it when you saw
your mothers eyes filled with terror because you were two hours later than you said you would be coming home.

(She understands so well how dangerous it is
to carry a soul made from a firestorm in this broken world.)

You must understand: they fear you. There is nothing scarier in their minds than a girl who knows the power of her flames..

Your passion is terrifying ,
your beauty  is unashamed,
determinedly uncaged
and so honest and wild
that they can only think of ways
to either own that fire
or try their damnedest to stamp it out.

But you must never ever let them take
those flames from within your soul,
Instead, you must burn brighter than ever 🔥🔥

you belong only to yourself, not to this world.

just wow ….

Sarah 🔥🔥💋

Hi!!

So I figured New Years is almost here and I wanted to share some cool traditions with you all! Enjoy!

The New Year is an opportunity to turn the wheel of time and begin a new. As the last year comes to a close, people around the world have an opportunity to let it go and move forward unencumbered.  Make this new year the best one yet!

Some things to do or think about …

Before the year’s over, release all clutter! Throw out all that you’ve outgrown and make room for something new. Take a cue from the Italians, who literally do “out with the old” by throwing unwanted possessions from their windows on New Year’s Eve. lol pretty awesome!

If you have consciously or subconsciously hurt others in the past year, it’s time to make amends. When your relationships are filled with anger or resentment, they become huge drains. Apologizing allows you to take back your energy and move forward. Start fresh this year, let the light of your heart shine. Release all negative thoughts, energy and toxic people. Let go with Love!

I thought this was super cool! To mark New Years Eve in Bali, the entire country goes silent and takes time for prayers and contemplation. People around the world could learn a lot from this ritual, considering all of us spend so much time talking, texting, social media etc. that we hardly listen to our own inner guidance. Before the New Year, make some time for silence. Put your phone away, shut off your computer, and just be with the beautiful gift that is the present . Do it alone or with someone you love…

Before the year’s over, throw out all that you’ve outgrown and make room for something new. Start fresh…

Purify your space! Make your home a place of peace.. Cleanse your space by placing sage, rosemary, or fresh lemon in a bottle of water and spraying their scents around your home. Boost the energy even more with a bowl of fresh-cut oranges, lemons, or grapefruits. For more than 6,000 years, certain plants were worn or sniffed to heal the body, attract love, and change one’s state of consciousness. Aromatherapy may energize, calm, rejuvenate, balance, purify the body and mind. Simply take a deep breath and let these wonderful essences change your vibration. vibe to my vibe peeps 😉

Take time to bless your life, your body, your friends, your family, and Mother Earth. Appreciation builds appreciation and makes you feel happy, reinforcing the good in the world. Smiles are contagious! 🙂 Add to the positive energy of the world — it needs your caring vibrations of light and love.

Most of us spend the holiday season thinking of others and what we can do or buy for them. But when we honor ourselves, we naturally make better choices for personal enrichment. You can’t give to others if you don’t have any energy. Don’t forget about YOU!

So, New Years in Spain, they believe that grapes bring sweetness and prosperity, and they eat 12 of them at midnight,one for each stroke of the clock. In China, one eats long noodles to symbolize longevity in the year ahead. And of course, lots of cultures welcome midnight with a bubbly champagne toast. Whatever you eat or drink this New Year’s Eve manifest the brightest & best future.. because the best is yet to come!!!

This is such a cool tradition…For good luck in the coming year, some people throw money into their home the first time they enter after the new year has begun. So, go outside your front door a minute or so after midnight and throw coins through the entryway. Bless them with all the qualities you want them to bring in! you’re welcome lol

On New Years Day we will open our book…The pages of the chapters to come will be blank. Its up to us to make this journey count….

I have to say, I’m totally excited about this year to come! Hope you are too!! 🙂

“My mission in life is to not merely survive, but to thrive ; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor and some style” 💋

Love Always

Sarah Elizabeth XOXO

It’s no secret, Life is not always easy…..
If you truly want something or you want to improve your life in some way, you will stumble, you will fall. Things may seem bleak. And you might feel like just giving up on your dreams and going home…DON’T.

I hope you always keep pushing forward. Don’t let that little voice in your head start rumbling again, telling you the skies falling down, you’re in serious danger, you can’t afford it, you’re not worthy of that big dream, everyone will think you’re crazy, and you will end up on the streets. ohhh honey, don’t you know by now the voices that speak negative aren’t real. The nonsense your fear based thoughts spew out is nothing more than feable, primitive warning sign emanating from your brain, trying to keep you “safe” when there’s nothing safe about living in fear.
Please, my love, free yourself. Listen to your inner light, the voice of love.

Im also here to tell you that on rare occasions throughout your life, you will come across people who will save your soul. You won’t know It at the time..because most likely everything will be so confusing, and too many things will hurt. But, in time, you will realize that these people were able to accomplish something unimaginable … They held up a mirror to you that was different from the broken one that you had become accustomed to flinching at.. And they were able to make you see-really see, a reflection of yourself that was much kinder than the one you saw when alone. In realizing that, you will breathe a sigh of relief – a sound you could not make before..Not until you suddenly realize that you are no longer alone.
These people are your shelter; your port in a storm; your God-given solace. A place of peace when your own feelings turn on you. Never forget these people. Hold onto them with everything you have left in you. Love them so much that at times it will embarrass you because they won’t care. And let them love you back, because in the end, they are the ones who will save you from the world that surrounds you, and sometimes tries to drown you. And, in doing this, they will save you from yourself.
“There are only so many of us born at a time. We are thrown into this world to find each other, to find the ones that don’t think you’re  strange, understand your jokes and sarcasm, your smile and expressions, the way you talk. We only have so long to find each other, but we have to try…”

Love, S
#myrandomthoughts #wehavetotry #nakedsoul #spreadlove

Do you really want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it is cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for and risking everything for. And the trouble is if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more ..

And right now it all feels like I am fatally yours,

Like two people are meant to meet,

And

Crash for the very,

First time. 💌 💥

She was comfortable in her skin, and secure in her own thoughts. Her being attracted attention, but she desired so much more than to be seen; her appetite was for something bigger than herself… She was here to teach us that’s it’s less about how you get what you desire and more about how you treat what you value. 💯💭

I read a fabulous article saying that we should never settle in the grey area when it comes to relationships, and that if someone is not a clear “Fuck Yes!” then we shouldn’t go there.

I absolutely love this idea.

Don’t guess, don’t make stuff up and don’t invest in the grey. Clear, simple and easy!

So in dating (and in life) it’s this simple, why do we make it so complicated?

how often have you been encouraged, or encouraged your friends to live in the grey?

“I’m sure she/he really likes you but just got caught up at work”  “Just go out with them anyway—you never know, it might change.”  “You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince/princess .” “Just hang in there and see what happens.” Fuck no! Stop kissing frogs.

Stop telling your friends he (or she) might call, they probably aren’t married or that they just need to be less picky. Stop making up stuff to justify that the person your talking to wasn’t a Fuck Yes… And for everyone’s sake, stop saying those encouraging, bs things to your friends who are wondering if they should date in the grey . To quote the classic, “just not into you!” Simple as that. Move on. There are a lot of people in this world..

(And, yes, I am mostly saying this to women because I think we are far more likely to get trapped in the grey, to play nice, to give too many chances and to justify things being less than great.)

I understand why we do this. I know about wanting to wander around Italy with a partner, a lover, a soul mate and putting it off because we haven’t found them yet…having someone to share life with..But are we so scared of being alone that we will choose unhappiness, mediocrity and hard work over dinner for one? Yes, it can be hard to be single, but surely being happy on our own is better than being discontent with another. Right!? YES!!!!

I’ll admit I’ve dated in the grey out of loneliness, seeing untapped potential, out of not wanting to be too picky (all my friends say I need to be more open) . Giving someone a chance , and then another.. But I know deep down that if it’s not a Fuck Yes, it is a solid No. I realize this concept the most at this point in my life.

It should also apply to a lot of other areas in your life.. Career, commitments, adventures,  be excited about life…if it’s mediocre just say no!

And sooooo, I commit, again..to finding a Fuck Yes, in love and in life—friends,travel ideas, jobs,even clothes shopping, everything! It feels super cool and freeing.

F*ck Yes, no less.

Boom!

Goodnight,

Sarah XoX

*lotsofFbombs #sorrynotsorry

Here’s to my best friend.. Here’s to living Fearlessly in spite of it all…Instead of becoming bitter and cynical, let us always have faith, let us play our music way too loud, laugh way too much, forever have our hour long phone conversations that only we understand & always have each other to lean on. “Let us skip rocks with sweet boys who hold our heart, let us kiss the wrong men and laugh through our tears about it later. Let us make mistakes with the ones we can never admit how much we care about, how much of our heart they own, but let us never again drown because some dipshit didn’t know what he had when he had one of us right in front of him” wise words from the bestie…on that note..

I still believe in love, in life, in the journey 💟🍷
Love SE

Happy Monday,

Morning thoughts…

I woke with a super positive outlook today even though its like a hurricane outside, I’m alittle tired from 5am cardio and had to eat wayyy more than I’m used to for this new diet plan, literally choked down eggs lol.  I gained perspective in my sleep I suppose ..realized I say “trust the journey” all the time and lately I’ve been forgetting just that. I had to remind myself  its all part of the plan, all happening in perfect timing. To just be true to myself, never change for anyone and the right people will be in my life. I cant control anyone’s actions, and I don’t want to for that matter..come as you are. We are all on our own journey and we have to trust that if people care for you and want you a part of their life they will show you and make time to build and nourish a relationship, if not, that’s ok too, you just take it for what it is.Keep it high vibe! Surround yourself with people who truly care about you always.

I get messages emailed to me every morning from “thedailyflame.com” this was mine from today..I suggest it to everyone, great little messages to start the day!! 😉

“Darling Sarah Elizabeth,
Are you tired of feeling like you’re “too much,” like you have to tone me down and hide part of who you are so you don’t overwhelm people? Then make me a promise. Never again apologize for letting my light shine so bright to the moon and back.  You have a beautiful soul!!

Unapologetically sparkly,

“I believe if I knew where I was going I’d lose my way
I believe that the words that they told you are not your grave
I know that we are not the weight of all our memories
I believe in the things that I am afraid to say

I believe in the lost possibilities you can see
And I believe that the darkness reminds us where light can be
I know that your heart is still beating, beating, darling
I believe that you fell so you would land next to me

‘Cause I have been where you are before
And I have felt the pain of losing who you are
And I have died so many times, but I am still alive

I believe that tomorrow is stronger than yesterday
And I believe that your head is the only thing in your way
I wish that you could see your scars turn into beauty
I believe that today it’s okay to be not okay

This is not the end of me, this is the beginning”

Good start to my week..perspective..raise the vibration!

Much love,

Sarah  *kisses

Hiii…

Sooo, the other night with the girls and a few vodka/splash pineapple on the rocks, we started talking about how long its been since I left New York as my permanent residence, when my friend interrupted me, “Sarah, its been a long time, years, at least five right?!”

 

In that moment – and frankly, in this one – I was in disbelief that this much time has passed since those black stilettos marched into the airport in New York into what, at the time, seemed like the start of everything. A new and exciting adventure.

I didn’t know it then – but it really  was the beginning of what has become my journey, somewhat of a roller coaster, but definitely  the start of my adult life transforming me into the woman I am.

When I think about the journey … It’s opened my eyes and my hindsight, erased a lot of my fears, showed me so much about myself and how strong I actually am. It has made me into the best shape of my life – emotionally, physically, professionally and mentally. And it’s given me a new outlook on life that I didn’t have as that bright-eyed, naive 20 something-year-old who first arrived, believing with all of my heart that everything would work out perfectly.

I still believe that things will be how they are meant to be – but I don’t believe in that perfection. Nor do I want it…I will however always be a dreamer..

As much as certain trials have caused much distress and disappointment , I’m thankful for them. Without those downs, I could never treasure the ups. I know for a fact that the woman I am today, the blessings I have, the friendships I treasure so deeply – wouldn’t have been possible if I knew everything that would happen when I packed my bags and headed South with a few suitcases, and the kind of blind ambition that only comes with youth..And yes, a little bravery…ok ok a lot!

(besties are always honest with you, at the very least). Instead, she said this:

In one word, describe this year. Don’t think, just let it come out naturally.

 

In response, I wrote out a pretty profound monologue highlighting all of the things I’m feeling: I love my job, my house is becoming more of a home since moving in 2 months ago, my friendships are strong and simple, Im embarking on the most challenging fitness journey of my life, and cant wait! my spirits are high, I feel blessed, I have a beautiful and amazing son, have two trips planned in 2016 and though I’m single, I know more than ever what I want and what I know I deserve. And I’m willing to wait for it, instead of rushing it…Those of you that know me well, you know that when Im passionate about something its hard to shut me up. hahaha

 

“Sarah! I said one word! What word is it?”

That’s the thing though – I don’t know.

Then that’s your answer – Think of how much strength there is not knowing.

 

hmmm, that made me think….

When I close my eyes and think of what next year will bring me or what my life will look like in five years, I only see possibility. I have no concrete plans, I have nothing tying me to the ground, I see the opportunities in every moment. I have no idea when I’m going to finally surrender my single status and share my life with a wonderful man who is secure enough to know that Im all his, a man that has energy that can hang with mine and still fall in love with all of the goodness and toughness that defines me. I have no idea where I will live – even though I do love Florida, I love alot of places & I’m sure I also love places I’ve never been to. I can’t see the faces of my future babies, if that is even in my future, that will be the center of my world along with Micah. I don’t know what articles I’ll write or when my book will be finished , what dates I’ll go on, what love I’ll share, what chances I’ll take. I don’t know if I’ll ever be the type of person who can not stop fighting for every single dream I ever wanted ( most likely not) .

 

I just don’t know…

 

But I do know this: the unknown is where everything begins. It’s both the scariest and the richest place you could be. It is ripe with words you can’t hear, roots you can’t feel growing beneath you, wings sprouting that you can’t see are lifting you higher to where you’re meant to be. It is where love is always born. It is where two people take a chance on something they can’t guarantee. It is when you look around you – at the chaos, at the beauty and at the challenges that feel so heavy – and you realize that you are enough to handle all of it. It is where you capture your own power, it’s where you stand up tall, you breathe it all in and you love it all out.

I do know that in a few years, its been life changing..I’ve had things happen that were eye opening and forever changed my view of the world. “something beautiful” …and although things could of made me cold and closed off, it did the opposite and I’m forever thankful for God, family, friends and my strong little heart. I’ve published this blog. I’ve lived in two apartments, before building a house. I landed an amazing job. Built a successful freelance business. I’ve become a mom, the single most beautiful accomplishment. I dove out of my comfort zone, got up some courage, took my son and blindly walked out of a toxic relationship a few years ago, best decision I ever made. I would be lying if I said its easy everyday, but you cant put a price on freedom of the soul and the surrounding myself with only positive.

I’ve repeated: You can do this, you can do anything,  Before starting every single last chapter, adventure, love affair, dream and hope in the past few years. I don’t know when anything and everything will come. I don’t know when the next page will turn, or who will be in the next chapter..when all of the visions I have swirling in my head will come to fruition.

But I do know that finally, after so much work, after so many tears, after so many plans gone awry, after so many text messages and blog posts and kisses and wine and late-night chats and long walks on the beach, my home… that not knowing is the best part of it all.

It’s where everything started a few years ago, it’s where I’m living now and it’s where I’m going: confidently, bravely, lovingly, imperfectly… into the power, the magic, the passion, the strength and the infinite possibility… of… well, I don’t know. But I know I’ll find out.

On another note, I love my friends and my family…the vibes of New York. Where it all began and will forever be the place I call home.

Love,

Sarah Elizabeth XoXo

“Are you going to be the victim or the warrior?”

Everyone goes through painful stuff sometimes. Whether it’s physical pain, emotional pain or just life not feeling as good as we’d like it to feel, none of us are strangers to struggle in some way. We can choose whether to live in the victim mentality when we’re going through tough times — or the warrior mentality.

Living life through the role of a victim means we feel helpless in our situations and make excuses as to why things can’t improve. Being a warrior means turning our pain into purpose. I’ll admit, I’ve found myself in both categories at times – but at any given moment we can choose to switch from victim to warrior. It’s about taking the next step forward, even if it’s a baby step. Seeing your pain as a path to growth. Finding a way to help someone else as a result of the pain you’ve gone through.

There’s a huge difference energetically when you’re talking to someone who’s in victim mode vs. someone who’s in warrior mode. Someone playing the victim role will act powerless over their circumstances, with a “giving up” mentality…”why me? The warrior might say something like, “this is what I’m going through — it’s been really hard, but I’m taking things one day at a time, healing, working through it, and learning a lot about myself.”

( which one would YOU rather hang with?! I’d rather chill with the pain-to-purpose peeps!)

We may not be able to fully live from the warrior mentality 100% of the time. After all, breaking down and crying is cleansing and healing, too. Things may not always be easy, but the choice we do have at each second is to be willing to see things differently. change your perspective..

A few tips on how, “combat the darkness with a tremendous amount of light”:

Make self care your primary function.
Find your personal team of healers – & high vibe loyal people to surround yourself with..maybe it’s your friends, family, children , people are brought into our life for a reason, be smart enough to weed out the ones passing through with no good intention and don’t let the ones go that actually want to get to know you, your soul.
Find ways that working through your own situation can help others, and help someone.
Say to yourself, “this may be uncomfortable, but I know it’s a radical assignment for growth.

Life happens. Experiencing challenges gives us a chance to become stronger and more compassionate. A whole new set of possibilities arises with every life change.Let’s choose to operate from a peaceful warrior mentality with as much strength as we can possibly gather!

I was definitely Inspired by someone to write this post…so thank you & keep on keeping on! ✨💞

Love Always,

Sarah Elizabeth