Hey hey!!!

I’ve  been thinking about what I would not say, but want to, to a future boyfriend sooo here goes……

If you’re planning to be with me, here’s a few things you should know in advance:

1. I don’t understand, or like constant negativity.

I’ve had a few relationships that were so incredibly draining that they put me in a bad head space. I noticed it and so did my friends and family. It was a big reason why those relationships ultimately ended. Don’t get me wrong: I can be negative sometimes, too, but I’m really quick to snap out of it. Men who want to consistently complain, put themselves and everyone else down, don’t appreciate the little things and are overall cranky are utterly exhausting to me.

2. I have an insane amount of energy.

Not only do I rock my work week at the plastic surgery center, but I also am a freelance makeup artist, I do some modeling gigs, manage my blog, am writing my first  book, have an awesome 3 year old  that at times can be crazy, sweat it out at the gym, meet my friends for dinner, talk on the phone way to late at night, check-off my errands, pay my bills, balance my savings account , get in a facial, spray tan, mani/pedi as often as I need … yes, I do sleep, and don’t get me wrong, I love sleep BUT… I like to live a lot of life, see all that I can and experience every moment. So I guess you can say I have passion for life, I need to see that in you . Im also super spontaneous!

3. I can’t walk past a baby, a puppy, sunflowers or a pretty blue sky.

Trust me, I’ve tried. I tried to keep on walking but something in me makes me stop. I love the innocence of children and puppies, the insane beauty in their eyes and endless wonder. The blue sky reminds me that life is truly beautiful and even though some days it rains, the blue sky always returns. Anddd sunflowers, they just make me smile 😉  Ohhh  and P.s. I feel the same way about shoes, sunglasses, & handbags..I can’t just walk on by 😉

4. I’m very sarcastic BUT can be sensitive.

The majority of the time I’m very sarcastic and I like someone that can take it and come back at me..if you can’t  I will probably be bored.. but  just know sometimes I can be sensitive so if  I’m not feeling it, chill.

5. Making you happy is a huge priority for me. 

It’s a habit that’s hard to break, but one I know you’ll like: I’m going to surprise you with so many things. Like your favorite breakfast when you wake up on a Sunday morning , or that dress you’ll want to rip off of me. Tickets to a football game… a vacation ..Or a simple note hidden in your pocket. I have so much love to give and making you happy makes meee happy! my only problem is,I have to learn to give my efforts to the right one.

6. need you to be passionate, try new things, vibe to my vibe, be fun….in bed.

Seriously — dudes who are quiet in bed? Don’t want to try new things.. Weird…Tell me what you want. Show me. Trust me, I love it!

 7. I don’t freak out often but when I do……

If I find myself feeling negative, because I’m usually so positive, I come crashing down. It’s messy, it sucks and I usually need my alone time.  it’s a time for tears and sighs that’ll make you think I’m having a panic attack, lol. I’m not — I’m just getting it all out so I can get back to being that perky babe you love. Bear with me. 😉  It doesn’t happen often, but it’s healthy for me

8. I don’t see life half-full, I see it overflowing, I’m super intense.

Its just me..wouldn’t change it for the world

9. I don’t just like romance; I expect it.

No, you don’t need to shower me with roses (sunflowers are fine), tell me I’m beautiful every waking second of every day (but like, a few times a week?) lol … I won’t hate it if you do. And if you stop romancing me, I’ll probably notice…. I like to feel special

10. I do things without expecting much in return because it makes me happy.

I engage in acts of kindness just to make people believe a little bit more in the magic of the universe. Nothing more or less. It’s cheesy, but very sincere. I hope you do too.

11. I believe in signs.

They are everywhere! (And yes, I’ll be pointing them out to you.) haha I trust the journey and don’t believe in coincidences

12. I won’t give up on you, me or us                                                                                                                                    The best is always yet to come, no matter how great the good is now. So we might have our bad times, we may struggle, we may fight, we will likely not always get along but through it all, the eternal optimist in me will never let us forget those two crazy kids who had enough faith in themselves to fall in love

13. Soul contract

I believe in this, that when another human is no longer serving you or adding happiness and growth to your soul you need to move on. Let it go with love. So many humans stay unhappy, I won’t. I just have faith that one day I will find my forever… I know he is out  there, I may have already met him

14. Im super strong and independent

Yes, I definitely beat to my own drum. I can be stubborn at times. I’m very confident in the woman I have worked so hard to become, and I’m extremely independent. #alphafemale if you will lol ..let you in on a little secret, I wouldn’t mind a strong independent alpha male to walk by my side, and I promise to let you lead.

15. Consistency and Effort

These are major things for me. If you’re  not consistent, I get frustrated and then bored. If you don’t show effort, why should I? There’s a lot of fish in the sea, why you?  If you want someone you show them. I’m all about making effort when I like a man and am interested in someone, I’ll give 100, call it a curse…but when I don’t see it being returned, I shut off fast, pull away and it’s hard to get it back. Soooo show me and I’ll show you

16. Family.

I want a family to call my own. In the past I have been nervous to admit that.. I felt as if it may scare a man or seem like I’m thinking to far ahead. Calm down guy, I didn’t say necessarily with you, but it is on my list… my 5 year plan. I’ve learned when you’re completely honest about what you want and don’t try to mold yourself, just be you; you will attract a man to fulfill those desires. Why waste time

17. Last but not least..LOVE and respect.

I will always expect you to kiss me goodnight, to cherish me. Respect me as the woman in your life, whether your girlfriend, fiancé, wife or mother of your children, and I will do the same for you. If we argue, and we will, never go to sleep upset.

Welp, bout sums it up hahaha… you think you can handle me?

Happy Tuesday!!

Sarah Elizabeth

Just some of my thoughts on relationships ..

I’ve learned that most people don’t think about what they really want in their relationships. They just go with who they’re attracted to, and then eventually fall into dynamics that can be unhealthy or short-lived. Some pick partners that are completely wrong and then complain because they wish they were married or could find the one.  It can be super frustrating ..I call it falling in love with potential. Seeing what you want , dreaming up what it “could” become…only to realize its not what you thought and you get pretty bummed out. Its happened to us all at one time or another… I say wake up and be open to finding what you truly want. Your not going to be able to check every single box off the check list you made for your potential partner but ask yourself what’s truly important..

So I have had a few people ask me when my next blog post will be…and I had this on my mind sooo here ya go! Thanks for reading 🙂

“People say that what we’re all seeking is a meaning for life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking. I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive… so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive. —JOSEPH CAMPBELL”  right on!! Awesome quote..

Happiness has a different meaning for each of us. It’s a state of mind, but the decisions we make can help create a fulfilled (or unfulfilled) life. Life is short & You are the only thing standing between yourself and a kick ass life!!

NEVER settle for good enough…

Gratefulness is often confused with complacency. Being grateful for what you have is wonderful, but don’t confuse that with fear of trying harder — taking a risk when you could achieve more. Good is just a pit stop on the journey to a great and passionate life. Life is too short to settle … Time is too precious. Live it up!!

Also, never apologize for living the life you want.

As adults, we sometimes realize life has more to offer than what we grew up with. Then we feel guilty about wanting more. Our friends and family might think or say we’re forgetting our roots, or constantly wanting and not satisfied with what you have, I’m here to tell you, do NOT listen! We are all on our own personal journey, it doesn’t matter what that looks like to someone else. As we get more confidence and experiences, we realize that taking the risk, wanting more, and trying harder is all worth it.

When you enter a sphere that those close to you may not be able to enter or be comfortable with, you’ll get pushback. Just know that this is an issue that they have to work through. It does not reflect on you, and should not affect your decisions. my all time favorite quote “life begins at the end of your comfort zone”

“Adversity is a natural part of being human. It is the height of arrogance to prescribe a moral code or health regime or spiritual practice as an amulet to keep things from falling apart. Things do fall apart. It is in their nature to do so. When we try to protect ourselves from the inevitability of change, we are not listening to the soul. We are listening to our fear of life and death, our lack of faith, our smaller ego’s will to prevail. To listen to your soul is to stop fighting with life–to stop fighting when things fall apart; when they don’t go our away, when we get sick, when we are betrayed or mistreated or misunderstood. To listen to the soul is to slow down, to feel deeply, to see ourselves clearly.”   How strange that the nature of life is change, yet the nature of human beings is to resist change. And how ironic that the difficult times we fear might ruin us are the very ones that can break us open and help us blossom into who we were meant to be. Think on that one 😉

Live each day as if it were your last people!

So many of us spend our lives in anticipation of a tomorrow that never comes. You might be waiting to really start living until you retire, or until you meet the love of your life, or until you get that next big raise. But none of us are guaranteed a tomorrow. You could plan the perfect future and never see it. All we have is right now. Live it, love hard, LOVE YOURSELF!!!  Being fully present is difficult. But it’s also achievable. It doesn’t necessarily mean traveling out of the country or jumping out of a plane on the weekends. It means you spend your time and energy on the things that contribute to the life you want.

Don’t let self-limiting beliefs force you into standing still. “Whatever is happening, whatever is changing, whatever is going or not going according to my plans—I release my hold on all of it. I leave behind who I think I am, who I want to be, what I want the world to be. I come home to the great peace of the present moment,”

It’s surreal to be able to wake up every day and love the life I live. For a long time, I let my doubt, my fear, and the negative voices of others keep me from realizing alot and following my path. I played it safe and was afraid to tiptoe out of my comfort zone. Lets just say I dove out of my comfort zone head first..yep I tripped a bunch on the way but was it the best decision ever, hell yes!!!  I don’t know what your ideal life looks like for you, but I do know every choice you make will bring you closer to it or send you further away. That’s up to you.

What does a happy life look like for you? Now start living!

 I wish you a life you’re proud of, filled with passion and most importantly love.

Love Always,

Sarah Elizabeth XO

Welcome to October peeps!

An amazing month and a favorite of mine for many reasons, some obvious and some very personal. There is something in October, sets the gypsy blood astir ..magic

So to say I have a lot going on in my life is an understatement…and to say I feel like my head is just above water is probably a great way to describe it…but to also say that me growing as a person is at a all time high and what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger is right on!

Allow me to quote my girl T Swift “Rain came pouring down when I was drowning That’s when I could finally breathe” love that!

At times I hate to show vulnerability or that I can’t “handle” all life throws at me all by myself. I mean I recently text my girlfriend and it autocorrected “Don’t” to “ #dontneednoman”  haha my mom would be so proud…however this is not true one bit. I jokingly say it and I truly don’t neeeed a man, but wow am I finding myself wanting someone to cuddle up close to lately.  Maybe because when the weight of the world is on your shoulders you just need that one person to kiss your forehead and tell you it’s all going to be just fine.  After a long day of work I want to be able to call someone I’m interested in and talk about our day. Connection and love is what we are all really here for, right? 😉

Right now I’m packing and moving my life into a new house, first time I’m doing it all completely on my own. Proud ..yes, excited..for sure, scared..absolutely!  my little one is going through a stage of terrible 3s and has double ear infections right now all while switching into a new school.  I work hard and am constantly thinking of ways to be successful, working on getting into the best shape and health I’ve ever been in… maintaining a relationship with all my friends and loved ones ..being the best mommy I can be, being adventurous, writing my blog to keep sane all while trying to be a bad ass and live a positive kick ass life!!! My day to day is extremely busy! I don’t ever really have time to breathe or have any “me” time. Sorry for the rant..but I’m sure you get it….

My cousin and soul sista text me yesterday and said  “Im very excited for you and this new journey your starting. Don’t allow anything that isn’t absolutely beautiful and nourishing to you have your attention. I love you and will be sending you so much love and positive energy!” it meant soooo much to me and to be honest the part about not allowing anything to have my attention that isn’t beautiful and nourishing was exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks Rachel!

Ive learned that while yes there are things you cant control there are a lot of things you can. Like being positive, spreading love, working hard, being a loyal good person list goes on and on… Ive also learned those people that suck the energy out of you or make you feel as if your having an anxiety attack and cant breathe,eliminate them! I don’t care if they are a spouse, no need to suffer with someone that carries a black cloud. No one has time for that, life is to beautiful and way to short. You can control who you choose to surround yourself with. If someone makes you feel not so good, move along, chances are their behavior has nothing to do with you anyways.

This next year for me is about becoming …becoming the woman I’m destined to be. I have grown so so much the last 3 years. Im ready… I have completely stepped out of my comfort zone and into open field, bring it on! “ you must sacrifice security in order to grow”  Im excited for my future, truly excited! I have no limit on how amazing I can make this short ride here on earth, but I’ll enjoy making it as kick ass as possible! Right now I may be stressed but that light at the end of the tunnel is so bright and I get closer and closer!

Hope everyone has an amazing day! Stay Strong and smile at a stranger, its contagious! 🙂

Love,

Sarah Elizabeth XOXOXO

A song I love and listen to every single day thanks to a fellow 311 fan that introduced me to the band Rebelution..

http://www.bing.com/search?q=meant+to+be+rebelution&form=IE10TR&src=IE10TR&pc=MALCJS

“‘Cause I can see the sun rise on my way
I can see the road rise to meet me
I can feel the earth underneath my feet
And I can see the stars on top of me..

And it feels like life is taking over
It feels like it’s meant to be”

such a great song!!!

#spiritualwarrior #oldsoul #warmheart #freespirit  #peace #awake #openmind #love #staystrong

^^ current status, just reading my book, drinking coffee and relaxing. About to go for a run in the beautiful sunshine on this fine Sunday morning. Wanted to share a passage from the book that I thought was pretty dope! 😊💭

Hold tight to the purpose and vision you have created for your future and own them with every ounce of your being. Keep all of your actions in alignment with your higher purpose, and keep your intentions pure. You will attract amazing and beautiful things into your life. So, be fearless, have fun, and be willing to take a few risks. Reach for the stars, and know that you  are supported in every way.

Move forward with confidence in the direction of your dreams and desires. Believe that they are not only possible, but that they are already in progress. ( key to living the Law of Attraction)

“If you have the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed.” -David Viscott

BOOM!

SE

#dreamit #believeit #sayit #writeit #manifestit #oneandonlylife #dreambig

Enjoying this beautiful Saturday, and as always thinking…. So here goes…

I always seem to battle the same war of understanding when it comes to other humans. I would venture to say that all humans desire to be understood, loved and accepted for exactly who they are at their core… . . Not the things that lie on the surface, like your job, your hobbies, the places you have visited, opinions on politics or the weather. Everyone can discuss these things but those things don’t get to the root of who we are. Many people never ask the questions that matter…..

What does the warm sun on your face remind you of? What sets your soul on fire? what do you long for? Do the stars remind you of every wish you have ever made? Whose hand do you wish you were holding on your loneliest night? or have you learned to hold your own hand knowing it will never let go? Do you leave the comfort of home to find yourself or to run from it? How have you healed yourself and grown from love lost? or have you  fooled yourself into believing your heart is free? What is the place you have never allowed another soul to touch? or have you been touched by dirty hands too many times in hopes that someday one person will touch you with unconditional love & security?
Fear. It must be fear. Why else would we hide behind shallow exchanges?
We are taught not to open ourselves up to others. We are taught to fear true intimacy, which comes from a balance of verbal, emotional and physical connection and to settle for physical exchanges. 
Too many people spend so much time working to break people down and to belittle them out of their own insecurities that in the end the only thing being broken down is personal growth & love.
I sit in silence at times looking for hidden clues behind unspoken words. I watch for little expressions that peak behind the mask of protection & occasionally, I will encounter another soul who allows me to read their story page by page cherishing each word in its honesty.

However, it’s fleeting these days to find someone who trusts enough to present their book to you with open hands.
We have all been hurt. Some more than others. It’s all part of the journey.. But it’s how we rise from that hurt, walk through the ashes and into new life that matters. How we relate and help others. Maybe we all have a 50/50 chance of becoming completely closed off or completely broken open to love without limit

Always remember–> we are ALL in this together! Every one of us has a purpose. You never meet anyone by accident. Maybe if we all let our guard down just a little we will realize so many people are just like us. Where we fall short, others are there to help and vise versa. Let your light shine.. positive vibes!!

Happy Saturday! ✨☀️

❤️ Sarah

So, I have to write about this because it touched my heart so much…

About a week ago a beautiful necklace (pictured above) was posted on my Facebook wall. It says balance… Eye of the Tiger gemstone symbolizes this. The lady that made it, Donna, posted under it “I have one left. I knew you would love this. Let me know if you are interested”

About 10 minutes later, I receive an email from a person that wishes to remain anonymous, and is such a kind soul they didn’t even want me to blog about it…but I had to.

The email asked, in so many words,” Have u purchased the necklace?” I replied that I hadn’t yet…and this was the next message—wait for it ….” Send the lady where you would like it shipped; consider it a 100% Random act of kindness is all… Please don’t post anything about it. Just keep writing in your blog and doing what u do. Think u touch more people than u know. Have a great day and weekend 🙂 ”

I have to admit at first I was skeptical, thought there were ulterior motives possibly but at the same time I was mind blown at the possibility of such a beautiful gesture.  I then said thank you so much, but I couldn’t accept …after thinking on it for a few I decided why not let someone do a random act of kindness and accept it? I don’t usually accept gifts; I am always the one giving them because I feel weird about people buying me things. I then got this email back “Thank you for accepting. Giving is only half. Accepting is a wonderful thing. It makes people feel just as good. You are wonderful” When I tell you that I had to sit and think on that, wow did I. I was in awe… in awe of such a wonderful soul, such a kind gesture, such words of wisdom that made me step out of my comfort zone, not to mention the necklace I received today and it’s SO awesome!  I didn’t hear from this person again, which proves it was indeed a complete random act of kindness…he didn’t do it to take me out, to ask for my number, to use it in any way at all.

These are the moments life is all about, random acts of kindness, spreading love, still witnessing beautiful people on this earth.  I will be forever thankful and never forget this… Thank you for making my day, for allowing me to feel comfortable accepting this gift and for that continuing belief that there are still humans that give, expecting nothing at all. This seriously sets my soul on fire with love, I will keep this trend of giving going and hopefully the person I give to will as well and so on… More giving and love is what we need in this world!

Thank you again, the necklace is so beautiful! In fact I’m wearing it now 🙂

If anyone wants to purchase one or something like it, check out Donna Zacharia Sellitti on Facebook, she has beautiful pieces!! Thank you for mine.

Love, Sarah Elizabeth

#actofkindness  #love   #beautifulsoul  #thankful  #themoments  #istillbelieve #ThanksT

” Take your power back, your a goddess, the prize..be with a man that has a strong enough energy to hang with yours”

 ^^Words of wisdom from a very very dear friend…

 You know when, very rarely, but every so often you have a conversation with someone and a light goes off. You really hear what they are saying, timing of the words makes perfect sense. Yup, this was me yesterday …

 I have been feeling alittle off lately and I guess trying to vibe with people who are not on my vibrational  level. I don’t say this in a bad way at all…. I’m just saying I take it kind of personal when things don’t feel quite right in a situation. I start to wonder “what’s wrong” or why things feel out of place..the more I try the more it gets weirder within myself lol

I have been battling these thoughts for a few weeks now because of certain situations..It starts with how I think a situation should go, letting it play out and being confused, feeling anxious and wondering what the hell happened in my own head…Well nothing happened at all..the only thing is that when two people from different worlds with completely different energy meet there no telling what the outcome will be.. Your energy has to vibe..and you have to have no expectations. When you have an expectation then it throws you for a loop when it doesn’t turn out the way you dreamed it up in your own mind, it really messes with you.

 Well after the words of wisdom from a friend I have a sense of clarity… an “ah ha” moment. I now realize that I have to remain at my level of energy and stop trying to change or adapt to others.  She explained it perfectly when she said “stay balanced, take your power back, you’re a strong woman Sarah..you need someone that can stand in their own energy and its big enough to hang with yours” Sometimes we don’t understand why things feel off with another person, whether it be romantic or not.  You can’t force something that isn’t in the stars.. and at times, people, myself included, try to place people in our lives because we are lonely or searching for companionship with other humans. We all want love and affection, we just want it from the right place. We attempt to lower standards, force things, questions things, change things in order to try to balance and make something feel good. (hope your following, I can be in my head at times) my point is to stand tall, stand in your own confidence and with the power to be who you are. Put out what you want back as far as energy and declare what you want for your future, say it, believe it, manifest it.. it will come true. Don’t waver or settle because your lonely, your energy will be off, the other person will sense, it wont work, and you will feel worse than before.

Most of all never stop believing and never ever let anyone dull that bright light that shines from within. If you step into the power that we all have deep inside us you wont have question why things happen or who you are..

Take the time to do nothing much at all.

“There’s never enough time to do all the nothing you want.”

Life isn’t just what can be captured on a to-do list. It is not achievement upon achievement.

To me life is also about spending some time just lazying around in a oversized t-shirt with no pants on the weekend. Taking a run on the beach, exploring with no destination, Reading, writing in my blog, painting, relaxing, or simply doing nothing at all. It’s about time in the morning, drinking my coffee on my front porch, before the world is awake, listening to the birds, or in the afternoons just watching the summer clouds go by… having a green juice in the park all by myself, its about hanging out with friends or family with no agenda.

Because there is much happiness and relaxation in doing nothing but being still… And because you can, in my experience often find new ideas, directions and appreciation for your life when you take the time for these things.

Cant wait for Friday! Much needed energy balancing 🙂

-S