Do you really want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it is cracked up to be. That’s why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for and risking everything for. And the trouble is if you don’t risk anything, you risk even more ..

And right now it all feels like I am fatally yours,

Like two people are meant to meet,

And

Crash for the very,

First time. 💌 💥

She was comfortable in her skin, and secure in her own thoughts. Her being attracted attention, but she desired so much more than to be seen; her appetite was for something bigger than herself… She was here to teach us that’s it’s less about how you get what you desire and more about how you treat what you value. 💯💭

I read a fabulous article saying that we should never settle in the grey area when it comes to relationships, and that if someone is not a clear “Fuck Yes!” then we shouldn’t go there.

I absolutely love this idea.

Don’t guess, don’t make stuff up and don’t invest in the grey. Clear, simple and easy!

So in dating (and in life) it’s this simple, why do we make it so complicated?

how often have you been encouraged, or encouraged your friends to live in the grey?

“I’m sure she/he really likes you but just got caught up at work”  “Just go out with them anyway—you never know, it might change.”  “You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince/princess .” “Just hang in there and see what happens.” Fuck no! Stop kissing frogs.

Stop telling your friends he (or she) might call, they probably aren’t married or that they just need to be less picky. Stop making up stuff to justify that the person your talking to wasn’t a Fuck Yes… And for everyone’s sake, stop saying those encouraging, bs things to your friends who are wondering if they should date in the grey . To quote the classic, “just not into you!” Simple as that. Move on. There are a lot of people in this world..

(And, yes, I am mostly saying this to women because I think we are far more likely to get trapped in the grey, to play nice, to give too many chances and to justify things being less than great.)

I understand why we do this. I know about wanting to wander around Italy with a partner, a lover, a soul mate and putting it off because we haven’t found them yet…having someone to share life with..But are we so scared of being alone that we will choose unhappiness, mediocrity and hard work over dinner for one? Yes, it can be hard to be single, but surely being happy on our own is better than being discontent with another. Right!? YES!!!!

I’ll admit I’ve dated in the grey out of loneliness, seeing untapped potential, out of not wanting to be too picky (all my friends say I need to be more open) . Giving someone a chance , and then another.. But I know deep down that if it’s not a Fuck Yes, it is a solid No. I realize this concept the most at this point in my life.

It should also apply to a lot of other areas in your life.. Career, commitments, adventures,  be excited about life…if it’s mediocre just say no!

And sooooo, I commit, again..to finding a Fuck Yes, in love and in life—friends,travel ideas, jobs,even clothes shopping, everything! It feels super cool and freeing.

F*ck Yes, no less.

Boom!

Goodnight,

Sarah XoX

*lotsofFbombs #sorrynotsorry

Here’s to my best friend.. Here’s to living Fearlessly in spite of it all…Instead of becoming bitter and cynical, let us always have faith, let us play our music way too loud, laugh way too much, forever have our hour long phone conversations that only we understand & always have each other to lean on. “Let us skip rocks with sweet boys who hold our heart, let us kiss the wrong men and laugh through our tears about it later. Let us make mistakes with the ones we can never admit how much we care about, how much of our heart they own, but let us never again drown because some dipshit didn’t know what he had when he had one of us right in front of him” wise words from the bestie…on that note..

I still believe in love, in life, in the journey 💟🍷
Love SE

Happy Monday,

Morning thoughts…

I woke with a super positive outlook today even though its like a hurricane outside, I’m alittle tired from 5am cardio and had to eat wayyy more than I’m used to for this new diet plan, literally choked down eggs lol.  I gained perspective in my sleep I suppose ..realized I say “trust the journey” all the time and lately I’ve been forgetting just that. I had to remind myself  its all part of the plan, all happening in perfect timing. To just be true to myself, never change for anyone and the right people will be in my life. I cant control anyone’s actions, and I don’t want to for that matter..come as you are. We are all on our own journey and we have to trust that if people care for you and want you a part of their life they will show you and make time to build and nourish a relationship, if not, that’s ok too, you just take it for what it is.Keep it high vibe! Surround yourself with people who truly care about you always.

I get messages emailed to me every morning from “thedailyflame.com” this was mine from today..I suggest it to everyone, great little messages to start the day!! 😉

“Darling Sarah Elizabeth,
Are you tired of feeling like you’re “too much,” like you have to tone me down and hide part of who you are so you don’t overwhelm people? Then make me a promise. Never again apologize for letting my light shine so bright to the moon and back.  You have a beautiful soul!!

Unapologetically sparkly,

“I believe if I knew where I was going I’d lose my way
I believe that the words that they told you are not your grave
I know that we are not the weight of all our memories
I believe in the things that I am afraid to say

I believe in the lost possibilities you can see
And I believe that the darkness reminds us where light can be
I know that your heart is still beating, beating, darling
I believe that you fell so you would land next to me

‘Cause I have been where you are before
And I have felt the pain of losing who you are
And I have died so many times, but I am still alive

I believe that tomorrow is stronger than yesterday
And I believe that your head is the only thing in your way
I wish that you could see your scars turn into beauty
I believe that today it’s okay to be not okay

This is not the end of me, this is the beginning”

Good start to my week..perspective..raise the vibration!

Much love,

Sarah  *kisses

Hiii…

Sooo, the other night with the girls and a few vodka/splash pineapple on the rocks, we started talking about how long its been since I left New York as my permanent residence, when my friend interrupted me, “Sarah, its been a long time, years, at least five right?!”

In that moment – and frankly, in this one – I was in disbelief that this much time has passed since those black stilettos marched into the airport in New York into what, at the time, seemed like the start of everything. A new and exciting adventure.

I didn’t know it then – but it really  was the beginning of what has become my journey, somewhat of a roller coaster, but definitely  the start of my adult life transforming me into the woman I am.

When I think about the journey … It’s opened my eyes and my hindsight, erased a lot of my fears, showed me so much about myself and how strong I actually am. It has made me into the best shape of my life – emotionally, physically, professionally and mentally. And it’s given me a new outlook on life that I didn’t have as that bright-eyed, naive 20 something-year-old who first arrived, believing with all of my heart that everything would work out perfectly.

I still believe that things will be how they are meant to be – but I don’t believe in that perfection. Nor do I want it…I will however always be a dreamer..

As much as certain trials have caused much distress and disappointment , I’m thankful for them. Without those downs, I could never treasure the ups. I know for a fact that the woman I am today, the blessings I have, the friendships I treasure so deeply – wouldn’t have been possible if I knew everything that would happen when I packed my bags and headed South with a few suitcases, and the kind of blind ambition that only comes with youth. And yes, a little bravery…ok ok a lot!

(besties are always honest with you, at the very least). Instead, she said this:

In one word, describe this year. Don’t think, just let it come out naturally.

In response, I wrote out a pretty profound monologue highlighting all of the things I’m feeling: I love my job, my house is becoming more of a home since moving in 2 months ago, my friendships are strong and simple, Im embarking on the most challenging fitness journey of my life, and cant wait! my spirits are high, I feel blessed, I have a beautiful and amazing son, have two trips planned in 2016 and though I’m single, I know more than ever what I want and what I know I deserve. And I’m willing to wait for it, instead of rushing it…Those of you that know me well, you know that when Im passionate about something its hard to shut me up. hahaha

“Sarah! I said one word! What word is it?”

That’s the thing though – I don’t know.

Then that’s your answer – Think of how much strength there is not knowing.

hmmm, that made me think….

When I close my eyes and think of what next year will bring me or what my life will look like in five years, I only see possibility. I have no concrete plans, I have nothing tying me to the ground, I see the opportunities in every moment. I have no idea when I’m going to finally surrender my single status and share my life with a wonderful man who is secure enough to know that Im all his, a man that has energy that can hang with mine and still fall in love with all of the goodness and toughness that defines me. I have no idea where I will live – even though I do love Florida, I love alot of places & I’m sure I also love places I’ve never been to. I can’t see the faces of my future babies, if that is even in my future, that will be the center of my world along with Micah. I don’t know what articles I’ll write or when my book will be finished , what dates I’ll go on, what love I’ll share, what chances I’ll take. I don’t know if I’ll ever be the type of person who can not stop fighting for every single dream I ever wanted ( most likely not) .

I just don’t know…

But I do know this: the unknown is where everything begins. It’s both the scariest and the richest place you could be. It is ripe with words you can’t hear, roots you can’t feel growing beneath you, wings sprouting that you can’t see are lifting you higher to where you’re meant to be. It is where love is always born. It is where two people take a chance on something they can’t guarantee. It is when you look around you – at the chaos, at the beauty and at the challenges that feel so heavy – and you realize that you are enough to handle all of it. It is where you capture your own power, it’s where you stand up tall, you breathe it all in and you love it all out.

I do know that in a few years, its been life changing..I’ve had things happen that were eye opening and forever changed my view of the world. “something beautiful” …and although things could of made me cold and closed off, it did the opposite and I’m forever thankful for God, family, friends and my strong little heart. I’ve published this blog. I’ve lived in two apartments, before building a house. I landed an amazing job. Built a successful freelance business. I’ve become a mom, the single most beautiful accomplishment. I dove out of my comfort zone, got up some courage, took my son and blindly walked out of a toxic relationship a few years ago, best decision I ever made. I would be lying if I said its easy everyday, but you cant put a price on freedom of the soul and the surrounding myself with only positive.

I’ve repeated: You can do this, you can do anything,  Before starting every single last chapter, adventure, love affair, dream and hope in the past few years. I don’t know when anything and everything will come. I don’t know when the next page will turn, or who will be in the next chapter..when all of the visions I have swirling in my head will come to fruition.

But I do know that finally, after so much work, after so many tears, after so many plans gone awry, after so many text messages and blog posts and kisses and wine and late-night chats and long walks on the beach, my home… that not knowing is the best part of it all.

It’s where everything started a few years ago, it’s where I’m living now and it’s where I’m going: confidently, bravely, lovingly, imperfectly… into the power, the magic, the passion, the strength and the infinite possibility… of… well, I don’t know. But I know I’ll find out.

On another note, I love my friends and my family…the vibes of New York. Where it all began and will forever be the place I call home.

Love,

Sarah Elizabeth XoXo

“Are you going to be the victim or the warrior?”

Everyone goes through painful stuff sometimes. Whether it’s physical pain, emotional pain or just life not feeling as good as we’d like it to feel, none of us are strangers to struggle in some way. We can choose whether to live in the victim mentality when we’re going through tough times — or the warrior mentality.

Living life through the role of a victim means we feel helpless in our situations and make excuses as to why things can’t improve. Being a warrior means turning our pain into purpose. I’ll admit, I’ve found myself in both categories at times – but at any given moment we can choose to switch from victim to warrior. It’s about taking the next step forward, even if it’s a baby step. Seeing your pain as a path to growth. Finding a way to help someone else as a result of the pain you’ve gone through.

There’s a huge difference energetically when you’re talking to someone who’s in victim mode vs. someone who’s in warrior mode. Someone playing the victim role will act powerless over their circumstances, with a “giving up” mentality…”why me? The warrior might say something like, “this is what I’m going through — it’s been really hard, but I’m taking things one day at a time, healing, working through it, and learning a lot about myself.”

( which one would YOU rather hang with?! I’d rather chill with the pain-to-purpose peeps!)

We may not be able to fully live from the warrior mentality 100% of the time. After all, breaking down and crying is cleansing and healing, too. Things may not always be easy, but the choice we do have at each second is to be willing to see things differently. change your perspective..

A few tips on how, “combat the darkness with a tremendous amount of light”:

Make self care your primary function.
Find your personal team of healers – & high vibe loyal people to surround yourself with..maybe it’s your friends, family, children , people are brought into our life for a reason, be smart enough to weed out the ones passing through with no good intention and don’t let the ones go that actually want to get to know you, your soul.
Find ways that working through your own situation can help others, and help someone.
Say to yourself, “this may be uncomfortable, but I know it’s a radical assignment for growth.

Life happens. Experiencing challenges gives us a chance to become stronger and more compassionate. A whole new set of possibilities arises with every life change.Let’s choose to operate from a peaceful warrior mentality with as much strength as we can possibly gather!

I was definitely Inspired by someone to write this post…so thank you & keep on keeping on! ✨💞

Love Always,

Sarah Elizabeth

Hey hey!!!

I’ve  been thinking about what I would not say, but want to, to a future boyfriend sooo here goes……

If you’re planning to be with me, here’s a few things you should know in advance:

1. I don’t understand, or like constant negativity.

I’ve had a few relationships that were so incredibly draining that they put me in a bad head space. I noticed it and so did my friends and family. It was a big reason why those relationships ultimately ended. Don’t get me wrong: I can be negative sometimes, too, but I’m really quick to snap out of it. Men who want to consistently complain, put themselves and everyone else down, don’t appreciate the little things and are overall cranky are utterly exhausting to me.

2. I have an insane amount of energy.

Not only do I rock my work week at the plastic surgery center, but I also am a freelance makeup artist, I do some modeling gigs, manage my blog, am writing my first  book, have an awesome 3 year old  that at times can be crazy, sweat it out at the gym, meet my friends for dinner, talk on the phone way to late at night, check-off my errands, pay my bills, balance my savings account , get in a facial, spray tan, mani/pedi as often as I need … yes, I do sleep, and don’t get me wrong, I love sleep BUT… I like to live a lot of life, see all that I can and experience every moment. So I guess you can say I have passion for life, I need to see that in you . Im also super spontaneous!

3. I can’t walk past a baby, a puppy, sunflowers or a pretty blue sky.

Trust me, I’ve tried. I tried to keep on walking but something in me makes me stop. I love the innocence of children and puppies, the insane beauty in their eyes and endless wonder. The blue sky reminds me that life is truly beautiful and even though some days it rains, the blue sky always returns. Anddd sunflowers, they just make me smile 😉  Ohhh  and P.s. I feel the same way about shoes, sunglasses, & handbags..I can’t just walk on by 😉

4. I’m very sarcastic BUT can be sensitive.

The majority of the time I’m very sarcastic and I like someone that can take it and come back at me..if you can’t  I will probably be bored.. but  just know sometimes I can be sensitive so if  I’m not feeling it, chill.

5. Making you happy is a huge priority for me. 

It’s a habit that’s hard to break, but one I know you’ll like: I’m going to surprise you with so many things. Like your favorite breakfast when you wake up on a Sunday morning , or that dress you’ll want to rip off of me. Tickets to a football game… a vacation ..Or a simple note hidden in your pocket. I have so much love to give and making you happy makes meee happy! my only problem is,I have to learn to give my efforts to the right one.

6. need you to be passionate, try new things, vibe to my vibe, be fun….in bed.

Seriously — dudes who are quiet in bed? Don’t want to try new things.. Weird…Tell me what you want. Show me. Trust me, I love it!

 7. I don’t freak out often but when I do……

If I find myself feeling negative, because I’m usually so positive, I come crashing down. It’s messy, it sucks and I usually need my alone time.  it’s a time for tears and sighs that’ll make you think I’m having a panic attack, lol. I’m not — I’m just getting it all out so I can get back to being that perky babe you love. Bear with me. 😉  It doesn’t happen often, but it’s healthy for me

8. I don’t see life half-full, I see it overflowing, I’m super intense.

Its just me..wouldn’t change it for the world

9. I don’t just like romance; I expect it.

No, you don’t need to shower me with roses (sunflowers are fine), tell me I’m beautiful every waking second of every day (but like, a few times a week?) lol … I won’t hate it if you do. And if you stop romancing me, I’ll probably notice…. I like to feel special

10. I do things without expecting much in return because it makes me happy.

I engage in acts of kindness just to make people believe a little bit more in the magic of the universe. Nothing more or less. It’s cheesy, but very sincere. I hope you do too.

11. I believe in signs.

They are everywhere! (And yes, I’ll be pointing them out to you.) haha I trust the journey and don’t believe in coincidences

12. I won’t give up on you, me or us                                                                                                                                    The best is always yet to come, no matter how great the good is now. So we might have our bad times, we may struggle, we may fight, we will likely not always get along but through it all, the eternal optimist in me will never let us forget those two crazy kids who had enough faith in themselves to fall in love

13. Soul contract

I believe in this, that when another human is no longer serving you or adding happiness and growth to your soul you need to move on. Let it go with love. So many humans stay unhappy, I won’t. I just have faith that one day I will find my forever… I know he is out  there, I may have already met him

14. Im super strong and independent

Yes, I definitely beat to my own drum. I can be stubborn at times. I’m very confident in the woman I have worked so hard to become, and I’m extremely independent. #alphafemale if you will lol ..let you in on a little secret, I wouldn’t mind a strong independent alpha male to walk by my side, and I promise to let you lead.

15. Consistency and Effort

These are major things for me. If you’re  not consistent, I get frustrated and then bored. If you don’t show effort, why should I? There’s a lot of fish in the sea, why you?  If you want someone you show them. I’m all about making effort when I like a man and am interested in someone, I’ll give 100, call it a curse…but when I don’t see it being returned, I shut off fast, pull away and it’s hard to get it back. Soooo show me and I’ll show you

16. Family.

I want a family to call my own. In the past I have been nervous to admit that.. I felt as if it may scare a man or seem like I’m thinking to far ahead. Calm down guy, I didn’t say necessarily with you, but it is on my list… my 5 year plan. I’ve learned when you’re completely honest about what you want and don’t try to mold yourself, just be you; you will attract a man to fulfill those desires. Why waste time

17. Last but not least..LOVE and respect.

I will always expect you to kiss me goodnight, to cherish me. Respect me as the woman in your life, whether your girlfriend, fiancé, wife or mother of your children, and I will do the same for you. If we argue, and we will, never go to sleep upset.

Welp, bout sums it up hahaha… you think you can handle me?

Happy Tuesday!!

Sarah Elizabeth

Just some of my thoughts on relationships ..

I’ve learned that most people don’t think about what they really want in their relationships. They just go with who they’re attracted to, and then eventually fall into dynamics that can be unhealthy or short-lived. Some pick partners that are completely wrong and then complain because they wish they were married or could find the one.  It can be super frustrating ..I call it falling in love with potential. Seeing what you want , dreaming up what it “could” become…only to realize its not what you thought and you get pretty bummed out. Its happened to us all at one time or another… I say wake up and be open to finding what you truly want. Your not going to be able to check every single box off the check list you made for your potential partner but ask yourself what’s truly important..

So I have had a few people ask me when my next blog post will be…and I had this on my mind sooo here ya go! Thanks for reading 🙂

“People say that what we’re all seeking is a meaning for life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking. I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive… so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive. —JOSEPH CAMPBELL”  right on!! Awesome quote..

Happiness has a different meaning for each of us. It’s a state of mind, but the decisions we make can help create a fulfilled (or unfulfilled) life. Life is short & You are the only thing standing between yourself and a kick ass life!!

NEVER settle for good enough…

Gratefulness is often confused with complacency. Being grateful for what you have is wonderful, but don’t confuse that with fear of trying harder — taking a risk when you could achieve more. Good is just a pit stop on the journey to a great and passionate life. Life is too short to settle … Time is too precious. Live it up!!

Also, never apologize for living the life you want.

As adults, we sometimes realize life has more to offer than what we grew up with. Then we feel guilty about wanting more. Our friends and family might think or say we’re forgetting our roots, or constantly wanting and not satisfied with what you have, I’m here to tell you, do NOT listen! We are all on our own personal journey, it doesn’t matter what that looks like to someone else. As we get more confidence and experiences, we realize that taking the risk, wanting more, and trying harder is all worth it.

When you enter a sphere that those close to you may not be able to enter or be comfortable with, you’ll get pushback. Just know that this is an issue that they have to work through. It does not reflect on you, and should not affect your decisions. my all time favorite quote “life begins at the end of your comfort zone”

“Adversity is a natural part of being human. It is the height of arrogance to prescribe a moral code or health regime or spiritual practice as an amulet to keep things from falling apart. Things do fall apart. It is in their nature to do so. When we try to protect ourselves from the inevitability of change, we are not listening to the soul. We are listening to our fear of life and death, our lack of faith, our smaller ego’s will to prevail. To listen to your soul is to stop fighting with life–to stop fighting when things fall apart; when they don’t go our away, when we get sick, when we are betrayed or mistreated or misunderstood. To listen to the soul is to slow down, to feel deeply, to see ourselves clearly.”   How strange that the nature of life is change, yet the nature of human beings is to resist change. And how ironic that the difficult times we fear might ruin us are the very ones that can break us open and help us blossom into who we were meant to be. Think on that one 😉

Live each day as if it were your last people!

So many of us spend our lives in anticipation of a tomorrow that never comes. You might be waiting to really start living until you retire, or until you meet the love of your life, or until you get that next big raise. But none of us are guaranteed a tomorrow. You could plan the perfect future and never see it. All we have is right now. Live it, love hard, LOVE YOURSELF!!!  Being fully present is difficult. But it’s also achievable. It doesn’t necessarily mean traveling out of the country or jumping out of a plane on the weekends. It means you spend your time and energy on the things that contribute to the life you want.

Don’t let self-limiting beliefs force you into standing still. “Whatever is happening, whatever is changing, whatever is going or not going according to my plans—I release my hold on all of it. I leave behind who I think I am, who I want to be, what I want the world to be. I come home to the great peace of the present moment,”

It’s surreal to be able to wake up every day and love the life I live. For a long time, I let my doubt, my fear, and the negative voices of others keep me from realizing alot and following my path. I played it safe and was afraid to tiptoe out of my comfort zone. Lets just say I dove out of my comfort zone head first..yep I tripped a bunch on the way but was it the best decision ever, hell yes!!!  I don’t know what your ideal life looks like for you, but I do know every choice you make will bring you closer to it or send you further away. That’s up to you.

What does a happy life look like for you? Now start living!

 I wish you a life you’re proud of, filled with passion and most importantly love.

Love Always,

Sarah Elizabeth XO