She was comfortable in her skin, and secure in her own thoughts. Her being attracted attention, but she desired so much more than to be seen; her appetite was for something bigger than herself… She was here to teach us that’s it’s less about how you get what you desire and more about how you treat what you value. 💯💭

I read a fabulous article saying that we should never settle in the grey area when it comes to relationships, and that if someone is not a clear “Fuck Yes!” then we shouldn’t go there.

I absolutely love this idea.

Don’t guess, don’t make stuff up and don’t invest in the grey. Clear, simple and easy!

So in dating (and in life) it’s this simple, why do we make it so complicated?

how often have you been encouraged, or encouraged your friends to live in the grey?

“I’m sure she/he really likes you but just got caught up at work”  “Just go out with them anyway—you never know, it might change.”  “You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince/princess .” “Just hang in there and see what happens.” Fuck no! Stop kissing frogs.

Stop telling your friends he (or she) might call, they probably aren’t married or that they just need to be less picky. Stop making up stuff to justify that the person your talking to wasn’t a Fuck Yes… And for everyone’s sake, stop saying those encouraging, bs things to your friends who are wondering if they should date in the grey . To quote the classic, “just not into you!” Simple as that. Move on. There are a lot of people in this world..

(And, yes, I am mostly saying this to women because I think we are far more likely to get trapped in the grey, to play nice, to give too many chances and to justify things being less than great.)

I understand why we do this. I know about wanting to wander around Italy with a partner, a lover, a soul mate and putting it off because we haven’t found them yet…having someone to share life with..But are we so scared of being alone that we will choose unhappiness, mediocrity and hard work over dinner for one? Yes, it can be hard to be single, but surely being happy on our own is better than being discontent with another. Right!? YES!!!!

I’ll admit I’ve dated in the grey out of loneliness, seeing untapped potential, out of not wanting to be too picky (all my friends say I need to be more open) . Giving someone a chance , and then another.. But I know deep down that if it’s not a Fuck Yes, it is a solid No. I realize this concept the most at this point in my life.

It should also apply to a lot of other areas in your life.. Career, commitments, adventures,  be excited about life…if it’s mediocre just say no!

And sooooo, I commit, again..to finding a Fuck Yes, in love and in life—friends,travel ideas, jobs,even clothes shopping, everything! It feels super cool and freeing.

F*ck Yes, no less.

Boom!

Goodnight,

Sarah XoX

*lotsofFbombs #sorrynotsorry

Here’s to my best friend.. Here’s to living Fearlessly in spite of it all…Instead of becoming bitter and cynical, let us always have faith, let us play our music way too loud, laugh way too much, forever have our hour long phone conversations that only we understand & always have each other to lean on. “Let us skip rocks with sweet boys who hold our heart, let us kiss the wrong men and laugh through our tears about it later. Let us make mistakes with the ones we can never admit how much we care about, how much of our heart they own, but let us never again drown because some dipshit didn’t know what he had when he had one of us right in front of him” wise words from the bestie…on that note..

I still believe in love, in life, in the journey 💟🍷
Love SE